The Stages of Adrenal Fatigue

In my experience there are different stages to this illness:

Slow Decline into the realization that you need to do something about it

Intensive Care – where you are resting full time and cannot think

Clarity – you’re coming out of the worst of it and having better days, lasting longer each day but you still have to take it slow

Recovery – Don’t stop taking care of yourself, watching your sugar, gluten, etc., and don’t forget about your nutrition and getting a lot of rest.

Depending where you are you will need to make sure you stay on track and get the maximum nutrition and rest/sleep. Keep stress low. Don’t volunteer for stress. If you’re going through anything stressful (good or bad) sleep more, eat better…. you can thank me later.

Adrenal Fatigue is a wake up call for self-care and an opportunity to change the way you have been caring for yourself and stop feeling guilty for putting your needs first. There is no shame in taking good care of yourself and you are setting an example for your family and friends when you do.


Feeling Depleted

Feeling depleted physically is expected with adrenal fatigue. I think one of the symptoms that I did NOT expect was feeling so depleted emotionally; it’s like my well was dry and I had nothing left to give.

I am a giver and a caregiver and a helper. I love that but at this point, I am so depleted that I feel like I have nothing left to give.

It can be a very lonely time and a feeling of despair can envelope you if you’re not proactive. Take steps to have an appt with someone every day; even if it’s by phone or skype. See someone. Talk to someone. Interact on some level, even while laying in bed because otherwise you’ll spend too much time I your head.

This is where an Adrenal Fatigue Coach – a life coach who has experience with Adrenal Fatigue – is soooooo important. And joining and participating in a certified Adrenal Fatigue coaching program online and in a private group where you can see and read how others are handling AF – it’s just so important to your wellness and recovery.

When you feel like others understand – the burden just doesn’t seem that heavy anymore.


Mental fatigue and forgetfulness

My first real symptoms of adrenal fatigue was forgetfulness. I could barely remember my own name. That’s how Bad it got.

I thought I was just losing it…

and even after a few days of resting I notice a major improvement in my ability to think more clearly, problem-solving, not as irritable, and memory has improved. So when you start to feel overwhelmed or can’t remember something be sure to take a nap.

Napping will speed up the recovery and make you easier to live with.

I take two naps a day while I’m at 11 o’clock in the morning and one at dinner time usually. Figure out your own schedule and make sure it happens so that you can get well soon.


“I want you horizontal more often than vertical” that is a quote from my natural path internal medicine physician in 2013 when I had my first bout with adrenal fatigue. Words to live by as you recover. So just try to be horizontal as often as possible and limit your   And prioritize and limit your time vertical. This will force you to rest more and then you will recover sooner.

It’s that simple and that difficult all at the same time…

Pace yourself

So naturally we can’t spend all of our time in bed. There are times that we need to get up and do certain things. Not the least of which is take a shower and eat and sometimes you need to remember to mail a birthday card or pay a bill online.   You need to limit your time that you are out of bed and only do the things that are the most important first. Like my husband is at a meeting and it’s his day off so I went into the kitchen and I cleaned up last night’s gourmet meal. I know it will be a relief for him when he comes home to see that the kitchen is all cleaned up. And it’s my little way of saying I love you.

I should’ve laid back down as soon as the dishes were done but instead I went and paid a few bills wrote out a note inside a birthday card  sat in front of the computer for a few minutes and in general just sort of goofed around. Now I am collapsed back in the bed where I will stay until I get my next priority situation. I really want to get a shower and morning for example, but that’s going to have to wait.  I also think we should pace ourselves want to comes to interactions with others, for example phone calls. I bought a Bluetooth that will work pretty well and should make it easier for me to have brief conversations. You need to be sure to speak up and tell other people you can only speak for 10 minutes and that way 20 minutes later you’ll be hanging up and you won’t be hopefully as exhausted.

Set your boundaries and keep them firm for yourself as well as for others and you will be on the road to recovery

Don’t give in to depression

It’s normal to feel left out when you have to spend your time resting. With that kind of thinking you may end up feeling depressed. So be sure   To think good thoughts and maybe even write some positive things on Post-it notes where you can see them., Surround yourself with fresh flowers, uplifting music, things you enjoy eating that don’t have sugar or gluten, and do everything you can to keep your spirits up. Becoming depressed lonely complicate the issue.

I’m lying in my bed and my husband just left for work and the room is dark so that I can rest and I am feeling left out. There are so many other things that I would rather be doing that I’m resting today. It’s a beautiful day outside with the blue sky and bright sunshine here    I love nothing more than to go to the beach with my camera… Or seven from my computer and work on my business. Or go outside and talk to a neighbor. Or go back to the grocery store and get all those things I never did grab. But instead I get to lay here and let my life just  sort of pass on by.  It’s hard for me not to feel depressed. Two years ago when I had this disease I was still single, fresh for my divorce, and didn’t live with anybody. Being sick is easier when you’re alone and you can just sleep and rest whenever you want   But happily I have a new husband and we are very happy but unfortunately I have to deal with this illness and the sooner I get better better off my life’s going to be, so I am resting.

But happily I have a new husband and we are very happy but unfortunately I have to deal with this illness and the sooner I get better better off my life’s going to be, so I am resting.

I suppose it would be helpful to take the victim out of the story and instead see it as something I need to do. Sort of like a task.  Like it’s my job to do what I need to do to get well. And resting is at the top of the list. I’ve had like I have so much in order to just rest and dictating into my iPad onto the WordPress app so that I can blog seems to be about the only thing I can do right now.

So maybe this is a good time to daydream and visualize and meditate and pray on the things that you would like to have happen in your life rather than focusing on what you can’t do. Another words show and think about gratitude for all the things you do have. Maybe even count your blessings literally.  Guard yourself against the negativity and recovery will be swifter.

Stay in Bed

I didn’t take my own advice. After spending the past 3 days in bed resting and sleeping I decided today that I would go to the grocery store for just a couple items and come right back. My husband was off work and I wanted us to enjoy a nice breakfast. So I drove to the store and half way to the door I started to feel “wonky” and by the time I reached the bacon and eggs I was feeling like I was going to collapse. I smiled at the grocery worker and grabbed the cheddar cheese, skipped the orange juice because at this point I was worried I wouldn’t have the strength to get to the check-out.

Driving home I was frustrated because that little trip to the store had depleted me so much. But did I get back I bed? No.

Later in the day, as I was laying on the couch watching a movie with my husband, I began to feel alarmingly low in blood sugar. We paused the movie and I ate yogurt while my husband made me a cheeseburger – real quick. But after the movie and dinner was over, I felt worse and by 7pm I was in bed sleeping!

I got up just an hour ago to finish downloading windows 10 and then had to re-add Word to my hard drive… looking for the product key in our filing cabinet really overtaxed me and I was irritable and short with my very patient husband. Eventually I was crying into his shoulder as I was shaking so badly that I felt like I was just going to die.

He asked me why I hadn’t rested today. “Because you’re home and I want to be normal”… well, it doesn’t work that way with adrenal fatigue. You have to go to bed and STAY THERE. No matter what.

My adrenals are throbbing as I type this on my laptop. I’m going to bed and tomorrow morning when I wake up, I’m going to stay in bed. I will go get the mail and get some fresh air and sunshine but I will also go back to bed. My new supplements will be here. More Vitamin D3 and this DHEA spray. DHEA has the ingredient needed to support the adrenals, so this is new for me and I will let you know how it goes.

I know some of you have jobs you have to go to but others have more flexibility. Either way, you have to get in bed and stay there. You just have to. Without rest there will be no improvement and every day you have to rest and sleep above and beyond the 8 hours of sleep you’re getting at night. Go to bed early and stay there.

good night…

Adrenal Fatigue 101

If you want to recover from AF the most important thing you can do is:

  1. Get adrenal support supplements and vitamins
  2. remove coffee, sugar and gluten in that order
  3. sip a teaspoon of apple cider vinegar with organic honey in warm water every morning
  4. get in bed and stay there. The more you lay down, rest, sleep – the sooner you recover
  5. also get your thyroid checked. Most doctors will tell you it’s “fine” so if you can afford it go to a naturopath and or internist endocrinologist. They know what they’re doing.
  6. Remove all stress, negativity and violence as well as gossip from your life
  7. remove Facebook app from your phone
  8. if you’re really serious about getting well, turn your phone off. Assuming you have a landline.
  9. Pray and meditate, listen to uplifting music and books
  10. cancel anything that is not super mandatory. We are talking survival mandatory. Like if you have to keep working. Everything else you stop!
  11. Sleep. Go for a little walk to get the mail. Then go back to bed. That’s it.

You our will recover but not if you fight it. Surrender is the word to live by.

You can do it. Hang in there.

Nightly Cortisol Crash

Night time is the worst for me because of the shift in cortisol. The shaking is rough. So you know what the answer is? That’s right – go to bed! And stay there! Go to bed as early as you can but before midnight.

If you’ve slept all day like I did today, going to sleep will be a bit of a challenge but you can at least lay in bed and rest or watch a movie on your iPad.

Another thing is get a homeopathic remedy for sleep and take that so you will get more rest. The more rest you get the sooner you recover!

Blogging from bed with Adrenal Fatigue

I’m lying in bed with my iPad. So technically I’m sort of resting. Not really though because you can’t rest when you have an agenda. I suppose I just have so many things I want to do and surrender is not one of them

I think about having a coaching program for people

Who have this disease. Is it a disease? And by the way I’m not responsible for the typos and ways that my audio text interprets the sound of my voice as I dictate this.

I can imagine having very brief coaching sessions with other people with AF. Helping them to know how to handle it. All the while I am learning how to handle it myself.

It seems surrender is a key component to this. Rest sleep take it easy. Unplug! That is mandatory! I can’t seem to go more than 15 minutes without a device in my hand though. I guess I have iPhone addiction.

I has been is being great about this. I haven’t told any of my friends or coworkers yet. I work for myself and I have not made an announcement yet. However I did cancel the event scheduled for tonight. Hated to do it but have no choice.

I had chronic fatigue syndrome in the 80s.  I think it was really adrenal fatigue. And if that’s true I’ve been dealing with this for over 30 years. I’m a type a person with a lot of ambition and drive and stamina. I have lots of things I want to get done. And it is 59, I felt like I was just hitting my stride. Really loving life and loving my career and of course my new marriage to my beloved Andrew. I’m used to blogging and getting things done on websites and social media… Lying in bed I don’t get anything done except I get my health back if I lay here long enough.

I just read that DH EA will help with the fluctuation in court is all court is all… According to Dr. Northrup… So I ordered some DHEA from Amazon and some D3 oh and I got the DH EA spray. You sprayed in your mouth. It’s cherry flavored. It will be here tomorrow. Meanwhile I’m taking my vitamins, I’m not drinking any coffee not having any sugar I am still having gluten but that’s because it’s in the house. Eventually we will switch everything over to gluten-free.

So I hope that you were resting today and thinking good thoughts. I think that’s part of it is well is eliminating the mental stress and the negative tapes that play in our head. Also have to be careful with language and violence and heavy dark negative things on TV etc. Not good for the soul!

I have also discovered that I cannot talk to anybody on the phone these days. It’s just too much trouble unless they’re right in front of me I really can’t talk to people. And I’m a very social person so you can imagine how well this is going over with me. OK so I’m gonna take a nap now… You do the same. Talk to you next time!